Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Why Do Men Cheat On The Perfect Girl

Written by Dr J

There’s an old saying that goes something like this, ”Find me the perfect girl and I’ll show the man that’s tired of [sexing] her,”  and boy is it one of the truest statements I’ve ever heard.  When you think about the recent barrage of celebrity divorces it makes you wonder.  I mean, we are still scratching our heads about Halle and Eric, but haven’t we seen enough to let us know that men just continue to cheat on the “perfect” girl.
Although I’m not sure, I came up with a list of reasons why I think this happens.  I can say that every woman I’ve ever dated I thought was perfect at the time, but I didn’t think she was the absolute end all of the female gender.  However, here’s some reasons why men cheat on the “perfect” ones…
Some men are constantly enabled in their environment. For example, athletes.  Someone asked me how Tony Parker could cheat on the beautiful Eva Longoria, and I had no problems in answering that question.  I go out a lot and I hang out in the same places as the Wizards, Redskins, and even the Capitals … groupies are invested in their looks and they LOOK GOOD. And all these good looking women are constantly in a baller’s face trying to give it up, regardless of the fact that he has a wife.  His wife may be beautiful, but there’s plenty of dimes in the club.
Never discount that a man has his own issues and demons. There are some men with destructive tendencies.  If you know your man well enough, you probably know that.  I know that some women won’t let their men go 45-60 minutes without calling or texting because they know he has issues with focus.  And there are guys who are in fact addicted to sex; or even a bad drug habit can lead to risky behavior against their loved ones.
Keep in mind that “perfect” is relative. My definition of perfect is completely different than the next man’s.  And when we say perfect, especially when we talk about celebrities, we’re usually thinking about looks and the characters they play on TV.  We don’t know who they are in real life and behind closed doors.  I know myself, my perfect girl doesn’t have to be the most beautiful woman in the world, but she needs to fit with my twisted personality.  I think that when I say perfect it speaks more to that person’s compatibility to another.  Keep it real, what’s wrong with Jennifer Aniston?  She seems perfect, but yet she’s always getting her heart broken.  Maybe we don’t know Jennifer as well as we think we do.
To follow up on that, a man has to find the woman that’s perfect for him. Going back to talking about compatibility, maybe it’s not such a good idea for two people who are busy professionals to be together because they won’t have time for each other.  Maybe the guy is truly a momma’s boy and needs to be coddled; that guy is not going to work well with an independent woman. She simply won’t want to take care of him.
Truth be told, I don’t think the reason men cheat on the “perfect” girl is because she’s not perfect, I think it’s because he hasn’t decided himself that he wants to be the perfect man, or at least try and be that way.  If a man is going to be a dirtbag, it doesn’t matter who he’s with, he’s never going to stop being a dirtbag.  If a man is striving for greatness and wants to give it 100 percent, then he won’t cheat.  It has nothing to do with how perfect or imperfect she is.  A man who doesn’t want to cheat loves his woman imperfections and all.

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